Monday, 15 June 2015

Body Confidence.

I hate my hips. My hair isn't long enough. My stomach isn't toned enough. My nose is weird. My boobs are too big. My double chin is even bigger. I hate my feet. I wish I had a bigger bum.

These are all things that I think about myself when I look in the mirror everyday. I have imperfections and as a young woman I am very aware of them. Other people might not notice them but, as I stare at my reflection, I do. I think it is hard these days for people to be completely happy with their bodies. The media  is constantly judging people's appearances and saying what the "perfect" girl should look like. Trends such as the thigh gap and girls with perfectly straight, white teeth and airbrushed skin cover the front pages and it's becoming a problem. Nobody is perfect. I should be happy with who I am and how I am. But instead I am here silently judging myself, wishing for things I will never naturally have.

So, I decided to sit down and write this post. It's about acceptance. It's about saying "fuck it, this is me". I'm happy with myself, you should be too.





Jumper, H&M, Was £7.99 Now £5 Available Here
Underwear Shorts, House of Holland, Was £8 (for 2 pack) Now £1.99 (from T.K.Maxx)
I bought these House of Holland knickers the other day and I really wanted to wear them in a post but I got scared of what people would think of me if I did a post in my underwear. I feel that when a girl posts a photo of herself in her underwear she is automatically sexualized and I was worried that people would start judging me and thinking I was looking for attention or being "slutty". I hate this judgement so much. A girl should be able to wear what she wants, when she wants without being targeted or criticized. If I want to post photos of myself in my super comfy, amazing new underwear then I will! It doesn't mean I'm trying to be sexual. It doesn't mean I'm looking for attention. It's my body, I can do what I want with it.

I'm comfortable in my own skin. Everyone should be. Our flaws are what make us who we are. What is perfect to someone is imperfect to someone else. I'm going to grow old in this skin and so I should enjoy being in it. It sounds silly but this body will hold all my memories and thoughts. It will party with me, cry with me, love with me, hurt with me. We really should appreciate our bodies more, they are amazing things! The marks and scars and cuts and wrinkles belong to us and we shouldn't have to try and hide them with makeup or cover them with clothes. Don't get me wrong, as a fashion blogger I love dressing up in clothes and expressing myself through my fashion choices but I've decided that it is also important to love what is underneath.

It took a lot for me to post this. I've never been the sort of person to take to heart what people think of me, I judge myself far more than anyone else. But as a young woman and blogger I think it is important to be vocal about things I'm passionate about and to try and make an impact, however small, on the world. I'm sick of people looking at me like a piece of meat because I'm a woman and I'm sick of feeling inferior because of the way that the media depicts women. We should all be confident in ourselves and what we look like. We are all humans and we are all beautiful. Our lives are for us to explore and live. I hope this post will inspire you and others and I hope you all have an amazing week!

11 comments:

  1. Great opportunity to visit this interesting blog, I love it. Absolutely very inspiring for many girls in the world. Thanks for sharing!!!

    xxx

    www.noragouma.com

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    1. Thank you so much for visiting! I hope you visit again. Thanks for the lovely comment. I hope I will carry on inspiring people! xx

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  2. I completely agree! If you're passionate about something it's best to speak up about it instead of staying silent :) Social media plays a massive part in the reason why so many young females lack confidence. It sucks :( Xx

    THEFASHION-JUNKIE

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    1. It really does and it is something that more people should be vocal about! I wish more young people loved themselves and hopefully this post will make people think a little bit and be more confident! xx

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  3. You have an amazing body! Such an inspirational post

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  4. You have an amazing figure! This was such a great post to read, I really enjoyed it x

    emily x ❤ | emilyloula

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  5. I completely relate to this post. I am comfortable in my own skin now 100% but there are always off days. Other people never understand the insecurities you have, and I think we are all way too hard on ourselves. like you said, we need to appreciate and love our bodies as we wouldn't be here without them!

    Made In The 1990's.

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    1. That is completely it! Our bodies do a lot for us so we should definitely love them. Everyone has insecurities and loads of people want what they haven't got but we should definitely take a step back and look at ourselves less harshly.

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  6. I can totally relate to this post too! I've been bullied badly in school because I have a butt. In the 90's it was not trendy at all to have a big butt!! It took me a very long time to accept my shape, I was constantly hidding my behind for years. Now, I'm in a place where I love myself more everyday and this confidence makes me shine. I realised that it's not your shape or your face that make you beautiful it's your confidence. Reaching for perfection is a waste of time, instead I try to reach for self acceptance and self love. I understand your fear to show yourself in underwear. I think one of the biggest challenge we face as women is accepting the judgement of others as a reflection of ourselves. Culture, religion and society have done a great job telling us what is acceptable for a "lady" in order to make us "behave" a certain way. When actually there is no rule!! I believe as long as I respect my own value and I respect people around me I can do what I want.
    I really like your blog :)

    Aurelie, www.surface85.com

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